Couples Counseling

While it is fashionable to claim that the main issues couples experience are due to ‘communication’, and even speaking different 'love languages', we have found over a quarter century of experience that this is rarely, if ever the case.

Many couples work ends up focusing on a kind of training to learn a newspeak, in the words of Geoirge Orwell's novel 1984, by which couples end up wrapping anew their issues.

Learning to speak differently represents only a surrender to mimicry, substituting the appearance of change for evolution. Speaking differently as a result of a relational shift is, rather, a mark of real progress at Psychamerica. 

The question for couples is not how, but what is communicated in our repetitive arguments and lack of intimacy.

Psychamerica works to articulate that which lies behind the resentments and conflicts that accrue within relationships over time, with the aim of freeing up an intimacy unique to each couple, one that was likely not present at the start of a relationship, and is not predictable in advance of analysis.

Pictured: De Berenkuil, Bergen aan Zee, Netherlands (2016)